Being in my twenties is an interesting time for my love life. Most of my friends are in long term relationships and every month is another engagement. My facebook newsfeed has turned into the daily bulletin of engagement rings and proposal photos. And as much as this makes me want to sit at home, watch lifetime movies and eat ben and jerry's all day, it also makes me think.
What's the big rush?
I understand that most of my friends have been in long term relationships for numerous years and that they feel like the next logical step is marriage. On paper I agree, the next step is marriage. In reality? Can you really be mature enough to get married at 24?
We begin our first career at around the age of 24, and we change our career at least three times throughout our lifetime. Does that mean that those who get married at 24 are going to change their spouses just as much?
At 24 I am still learning to understand myself, and learn to love who I am as a person. I feel that my sense of self is still evolving. I keep learning new things about myself everyday. I am just learning to take care of myself, and mastering my responsibilities as an adult. I barely know what it is like to be in a serious relationship, and some days wonder if I want to know what it's like.
At some point I know that I will find the right guy, and we will be extremely happy and forever in love. But here and now at age 24 all I want to plan is my grad-school graduation, not my wedding. The only thing that is in my budget is a once a month drinking night, not wedding presents/bridal parties/bachelorette parties. The only thing I want to focus on is figuring out my life and what I am going to do with the rest of it.
Am I being left behind, or is everyone rushing away their lives? I am not sure. I guess only time will tell.
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